CALF in Albuquerque, NM, September 12 -17, 2019

Immerse Yourself in the Energy of NVC to Nourish, Inspire and Enliven as the CALF Community Returns to Our NVC Roots

  • A 5 Day International CALF Immersion with Special Guest Rita Herzog
  • September 12 to 17, 2019, Albuquerque, NM
  • Certification Candidates/Community 

We are excited to invite you to join our NVC gathering with seasoned practitioners, community members and those who share NVC to:

  • Live, Learn and Share our discoveries in this CALF Community
  • Participate in a pre-assessment as part of the certification process
  • Gain clarity on living the Key Distinctions of NVC
  • Celebrate Marshall’s legacy and the history of NVC
  • Connect and learn more about the CNVC organization and staff
  • Visit Marshall’s final resting place
  • Cook and share healthful meals together with seasoned chef
  • Laugh, Play and have Fun!

CALF Team in Albuquerque

Investment in Yourself

We value transparency and sustainability so we offer our breakdown of expenses and financial requests: Total investment is $1300 - $1000. If you contribute more than the requested amount, those with fewer resources will benefit from your gifts.

  • Basic expenses for room, board plus trainer room, board and travel costs: $500
  • Send a $500 deposit to hold your space to PayPal.com (family and friends) to silgiraffe@aol.com (Sylvia Haskvitz)
  • Suggested trainer/support contribution for their sustainability: $500 to $800

If you would like suggestions about GoFundMe and other ways to receive funding from your community, please ask us for support!

Dates and Times

The retreat will take place from September 12, 2019 at 5 PM (with dinner) to September 17, 2019 at 1 PM (with lunch).

We request that your travel plans allow you to attend the retreat from start to finish.

Venue / The Room Dance

Accommodations include the following Airbnbs:

  • 9328 W. Haven NW, Albuquerque, NM 87114 (map) (We will meet at this location upon arriving.)
  • 7232 Hearthstone Road, Albuquerque, NM 87114 (map)

Like other retreats offered by CALF, your accommodation will be decided when arriving at the retreat rather than prior to arriving at the retreat.  We will gather on the first evening of the retreat and partake in the "Room Dance" where trainers, organizers, the cooking team and attendees state their needs and make requests, and accommodations are then chosen to meet the needs of all.  Although our room dance may trigger some anxiety or discomfort for those who have not experienced it before, many who have partaken in the room dance have found it to be a fun, playful, rewarding and effective exercise in meeting needs.  Our experience is that past room dances have not left individuals with unmet needs. Our workshop venue will be one of the Airbnb living rooms and we'll decide that together when we gather.

Retreat Fee / Registration

The “hard cost” fee for attending the retreat will be $500 to cover your room and daily meals, and the costs of travel, room and board for the team of trainers, organizers and cooking team.

To register for our Albuquerque event:

Contribution to Trainers, Organizers and Cooking Team / The Money Dance

At the end of the retreat, you will have an opportunity to hear needs and requests from the team of trainers, organizers and cooking team around compensation for the training and services they have provided, to reflect on your own needs and the value you received from the retreat, and to make a contribution to the team. A contribution from each participant between $500 and $800 is suggested to contribute to their sustainability.

Meals, Food Preferences and Special Dietary Needs / Meals Creating Community

Meals at the retreat will be vegetarian, and largely gluten-free. Meals will be designed to maximize your energy and meet the needs of your body. Meals will be prepared by our cooking team in partnership with participants as an opportunity to create community and explore the meeting of everyone’s needs. Snacks, including healthy sweets, will be provided in between meals. We do our very best to provide food that will be life-serving and meet both your body and your emotional needs providing high nutrient density for high energy and maximize our focus and integration potential.

To assist in planning for food preferences and special dietary needs, we have created a Google spreadsheet at:

2019 CALF in Albuquerque Special Dietary Needs Spreadsheet

Please add your name to the spreadsheet and any food preferences and special nutritional needs you have so we can plan appropriately.

Travel Coordination

To assist in coordinating travel, we have created a Google spreadsheet at:

2019 CALF in Albuquerque Travel Coordination Spreadsheet

Please add your name to the spreadsheet with your contact and travel information if you are able to offer assistance to others with their travel to/from the retreat, or if you would like assistance with travel to/from the retreat, or if you would simply like to share contact information with other retreat attendees.  Add any notes or comments to the spreadsheet to facilitate communication about your needs, and check in periodically to see what others may be offering or what others may be needing.

Proposed Schedule and Retreat Themes

Our schedule (which we will finalize at the retreat) has looked as follows at previous CALF events:

7:00 - 8:30 AM - Breakfast on your Own
9:00 - 9:50 AM - Remembering, Introduction to the Day
10:00 - 11:45 AM - Morning Session
12:00 - 2:00 PM - Lunch including preparation and cleaning up
2:00 - 3:00 PM - Rest, Rejuvenation and Integration
3:00 - 4:45 PM - Afternoon Session
5:00 - 6:00 PM - Group Harvesting
6:00 - 8:00 PM - Dinner including preparation and cleaning up
8:00 - 9:00 PM - Evening Activity

We value spaciousness to allow for the integration of your learning and the building of community during the retreat.  Our schedule may change as the retreat progresses as needs become apparent and shift.  We have one pre-assessment that we will experience together during the retreat.  The schedule will adjust during that portion of the retreat.  We will include a time when we visit the Center for Nonviolent Communication and Marshall Rosenberg's final resting place. We're planning on meeting together with all attendees for each morning session.  We may break into smaller groups during the afternoons to accommodate presentations from those that wish to give them.  There will be two certified trainers (two assessors and Rita Herzog who created the certification process and trained the initial assessors), our retreat participants which will include certification candidates and community members, and our head chef on the cooking team. Our community will be rich with enthusiasm, wisdom and experience. We’re hoping to connect with the other certified trainer on the CALF team through the Internet as she was unable to be present in person.

Presentation Opportunities

We will have space either during the day or during the evening during the retreat for candidates (at their option) to give a short presentation, and then receive feedback from their presentation, or lead a discussion.

Bring a Remembering

If something speaks to you, bring a remembering or something to be read at the opening of our day at the retreat that connects you with NVC that you'd like to share with the rest of us.

Bring Something Fun

If you play an instrument, or enjoy an outdoor game or any other entertainment you would like to share with the group, feel free to bring it with you.

Come Prepared to Enjoy the Outdoors

Fall is a special season in Albuquerque. Mornings are cool and pleasant, warmed by the bright sunshine; the cottonwoods turn a beautiful yellow along the Rio Grande; and seasonal growers markets bear fresh fruit and roasted chile. Fall is what locals refer to as the "magical season," with the largest hot air balloon festival in the world, captivating color changes and incredible blue skies. Albuquerque is noted for warm temperatures early in the season around 70°F/21°C. Summer still lingers in September and early October, with "sweater" weather setting in during November. We have built spaciousness into our days during the retreat so you'll have opportunities to integrate what you are learning and experiencing through quiet time, conversational time, and take walks outdoors. Bring comfortable shoes and a hat for a visit to the cemetery.

Come Prepared to Co-Create our Retreat

We are excited that you will join us for our CALF retreat. The CALF team favors co-creation and collaboration in planning our retreats. We want you to be thinking about what topics are important to you in the frame of NVC, What questions do you have? We invite you to bring this information with you to the retreat along with your wishes, hopes and dreams and we will explore them together and co-create the agenda for our time together.

Contact and Additional Questions

Should you have any questions, please contact Mark Friedman at drmarkafriedman@richardroman.com or Sylvia Haskvitz at silgiraffe@aol.com.

See you soon!

We are looking forward to spending time with you to grow in our common passion to know, live and share NVC. We believe that our retreat will be a unique opportunity for deep learning and rich community building with its focus on gathering together a group of CNVC certification candidates and others in the NVC community to experience the foundation of Marshall Rosenberg’s teachings while we connect with the roots and organizational foundation of CNVC. We’d enjoy hearing ideas you may have that might enrich your retreat experience. As Rita Herzog says, "Imagine what would have you dancing out the door at the end of the retreat." With that self-awareness and self-responsibility, we're guessing this will be a transformative experience for all of us. We look forward to connecting with you soon.